- First secure at small expense a little kindly feeling among your neighbors.
- Second, season with milk of human kindness and sprinkle some enthusiasm over it.
- Third, add a dash of tolerance and don't roast to much. Do it up brown; overlook fancied wrongs; remember only the kinds things. It costs little, and is very satisfying.
Curious as to what a Kettledrum? is?
During the 1800's and early 1900's an afternoon tea party was quite popular in England. It was often referred to as a kettledrum. The word, is actually a pun. Kettle, refers to the tea kettle or teapot. Drum was a term used for a party. A reference to a Kettledrum is noted in the book titled Manners and Social Usages by Mrs. John Sherwood. An online reference can be found at the Library of Congress website.
A true kettledrum was a party where tea was served, usually in a private home, it was always an afternoon tea. Finger sandwiches, cakes, pastries and perhaps some fruit would be served along with pots of tea. American society literally borrowed the term from the English and sometimes delighted their guests by serving the tea on a drumhead. At times, a hostess would even go as far as having a tiny drum handy to beat at intervals.
The progenitor of the cocktail party, a relatively inexpensive method of paying off a great many social debts all at once, was the afternoon tea party, which was called in the 1870's and for several decades after that a kettledrum. All one needed to provide one's guests was sandwiches as thin as tissue paper and as dainty as lace doilie and tea. (The American Heritage Cookbook p.290)
The Ladies Lunch and afternoon Kettle-Drum are social and graceful modern improvements. Marion Harland Common Sense In The Household revised ed. 1880 p. 146At Months of Edible Celebrations, a Kettledrum is a place where we will mingle, share daily delectables, tasteful inventions, delicacies and morsels sans souci. So grab yourself a cup of tea and enjoy...